Written by Pamela K. Orgeron, M.A., Ed.S., BCCC, ACLC, Author
Are you struggling to fit in at a job? Do you feel unfulfilled in your home church? Perhaps you don’t fit in with your family of origin. What does one do in such situations? How does one know whether God is wanting him or her to make a change, or whether Satan is attempting to thwart something big that may be about to happen where one is currently located? In my opinion, the answers are not always easy; but, discernment is important to have to determine God’s will.
Are you struggling to fit in at a job? If so, you are not alone. According to a 2017 Gallup Poll, 85% of workers worldwide are dissatisfied with their jobs. In America, the percentage is 70%. Personally, I believe that a person should enjoy whatever position he or she is working to be the most productive and fulfilled. Furthermore, for Christians, I believe God calls individuals to certain positions where He can use them most effectively for the benefit of His Kingdom.
A home church should offer an individual a place where one can both serve and be served in times of need. This topic is very personal to me right now, as my husband and I have just made the decision to start visiting different churches to find a new church home due to not being fulfilled at our current church home. Our current church home has been wonderful in ministering and encouraging us to grow but offers us little opportunity to serve where we can use our God-given talents. Thus, we feel unfulfilled there. No doubt, God had a purpose in our being there for a while but I have no doubt God wants us to let go and move on somewhere yet to be shown to us.
If you are like me, maybe you struggle to fit in your family of origin. I always felt like I never fit in my biological family. Of course, I think that had to do more with my having different interests and goals than others in my family. Sometimes, though a person fails to fit in a family of origin due to unhealthy attachments and behaviors that he or she recognizes as unpleasant and detrimental to one as an individual. In such cases, I believe there is no wrong done when a person chooses to put distance between him or herself and his family of origin when they are out of sync with each other. Is that your situation? If so, then I recommend you walk away from any abuse or dysfunction. One of my grandmothers always told me, “You can’t choose the family you were born into but you can sure choose your friends.” That’s true. I also would add that when your family is unhealthy or dysfunctional, I would allow your friends, especially your church friends, to become your family.
Is God calling you to make a career change, to change churches, or to make a change in any area of your life whether that change be big or small? Areas of life that might need changing could be anything ranging from stopping unhealthy lifestyle behaviors, such as smoking, drinking alcohol or abusing food or drugs to following the traffic laws, not just major changes like the ones mentioned early on in this article.
How does God speak to us to bring about change? Among the ways I believe God can speak to a person, to a family, or even to a nation to produce change are:
- Through His Word (2 Timothy 3:16)
- Through prayer (Exemplified through Christ in the Garden of Gethsemane: Matthew 26:36-46; Mark 14:32-42, Luke 22:39-46)
- Through the Holy Spirit (John 16:13)
- Through Godly counsel from others more mature in the faith (Proverbs 12:15)
- Through circumstances (Exemplified in Scripture in the life of Jonah when he disobeyed God and was thrown into the belly of a whale; Jonah 1)
- Through dreams and visions (Acts 2:17)
- Through miracles (Hebrews 2:4)
Is God using His Word, the Holy Spirit, circumstances, or something else to convict you to make a change in your life? If so, my advice is to obey God. In James 4:7, we are told to obey God and resist the devil, and that’s what I have every intention of doing. How about you? Will you step out on faith to follow God’s call to change?